Solutions to Problems with Problematic Beliefs

The problems with problematic beliefs – termed “cognitive distortions” in cognitive behavior therapy and “Stuck Points” in cognitive processing therapy – are:

  • The reality I experience is filtered through my beliefs. What I experience can be partial and distorted.
  • What I believe influences what I feel and how intensely I feel it.
  • When a belief comes to mind, the next thought is more influenced by my belief than by reality.
  • When a belief comes to mind, the sentence I say next to myself is more likely to be born of that belief rather than from the facts of the situation.
  • When I am holding a belief in my mind, the sentence I say next to someone else may be more influenced by my belief than by facts.

New pathsHolding problematic beliefs can result in these problematic actions and states:

  • Self-criticism: Low self-esteem and self-devaluation as expressed in the tendency to criticize or devalue myself.
  • Self-blame: Extent to which I blame myself for negative, unwanted events in my life, including events outside my control.
  • Helplessness: Perception of being unable to control important aspects of my life.
  • Hopelessness: Extent to which I believe that the future is bleak and that I am destined to fail.
  • Preoccupation with danger: Tendency to view the world, especially the interpersonal domain, as a dangerous place.

(Adapted from Cognitive Distortion Scales by John Briere, Ph.D.)

Therefore, problematic beliefs cause problems with:

  • how I feel right now
  • what I’m able to think about right now
  • what I choose to say or do next
  • how I interact with others

Obviously, the solution to having problematic beliefs is simply taking a look at my beliefs and pulling the problematic ones like so many weeds. However, problems arise when I begin to examine my beliefs.

I use beliefs to try to keep order in my world. Beliefs are how I’ve organized what’s happened to me and what I’ve learned so I know where to go and what to do. I’ve used beliefs like rock-solid facts to line the paths in my garden. If I bend down to take a closer look and see weeds rather than rocks, I feel wild. I fear tumbling end over end into unlined chaos. And I feel ashamed. I think, “I believed I was right about that! But I’ve discovered I’m wrong!” Fear and shame are terribly distressing feelings. No wonder I stand back up and avoid looking at the edges of the path again.

But holding problematic beliefs causes me suffering and causes suffering to those I love. But looking for problematic beliefs causes me suffering. What a double bind! Suffering everywhere I turn! I feel trapped by suffering!

I believe I must do something, anything, to end this suffering right now! I believe I cannot take this!

Oh, my. Those are statements of problematic beliefs. The reality is that I actually can set myself up to do this task of weeding in kind, skillful, efficient ways so I suffer as little as possible as briefly as possible. It won’t be pain-free, granted, but I can learn skills, I can surround myself with support, and I can get this done.

And good enough will do. I just need to clear some of the biggest problematic beliefs (“I am to blame for what happened because I am bad and wrong” is a common problematic belief ready for the mulch pile).

Newly aware of what’s really going on with me, I can then shape new paths based on my values and priorities. I have the freedom that awareness gives me.

Anne Giles, M.A., M.S., L.P.C., is a counselor in  private practice in Blacksburg, Virginia. She is a rostered provider of Cognitive Processing Therapy for PTSD.

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