Love and Sex After 50

Love and Sex After 50 was a course proposed for the Lifelong Learning Institute at Virginia Tech in Blacksburg, Virginia, during the Spring Term, 2018.

Unfortunately, not enough members enrolled for the course to make.

I advertised the course on Facebook to individuals in our locale over 50. Nearly 6,000 people were served the ad in their news feeds, and nearly 500 people clicked on the link to the course description. The interest is there! Please offer observations on what might be barriers to enrolling, and please suggest ways we might present this topic in a way that those interested might join a discussion!


Course description:

Love and sex matter after 50! Science concurs with what our hearts, minds, and bodies know. Yet, how to navigate this unanticipated terrain of long-term relationships, lost and ended relationships, the uncertainty of future relationships, all with the spoken and unspoken prospect of getting naked together?! And the setting for this unfolding drama? A small, rural, college town?! If you feel overwhelmed, you’re not alone! This course will offer a dialectic of data-backed, reassuring, juicy guidance on possibilities for how to individually, and in partnership, feel loving and sexual your whole life.

“[E]ven though physical release may be involved, loving sex is a cherishing of each other’s minds, hearts and bodies – the whole person that is our partner.”
– John and Julie Gottman

  • Session 1: Update on the Context for Love and Sex After 50
  • Session 2: Heart-Touching, Mind-Engaging, Body-Tingling Possibilities for Sex After 50
  • Session 3: Ways to Talk About Love and Sex

Artist and LLI instructor Jessica Pace-Berkeley is scheduled to unveil a watercolor painting commissioned exclusively for the course during the second session on Monday, February 12, 2018, at 3:00 PM.


“But I believe that everyone in the world wants to be with someone else tonight, together in the dark, with the sweet warmth of a hip or a foot or a bare expanse of shoulder within reach…Nothing is easy at this age, and first meetings for old lovers can be a high-risk venture. Reticence and awkwardness slip into the room. Also happiness.”
Roger Angell

Recommended Reading

Recommended by Harvey Barker, Ph.D., LPC, counselor in private practice in Blacksburg, Virginia, former Executive Director of New River Valley Community Services, who specializes in therapy for sexual and relationship issues:

Additional Recommendations

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Watercolor paintings by Jesi Pace-Berkeley

“Sexuality is as varied as human interaction in general, encompassing many daily, intimate moments of tenderness, sensuality, pleasure, and mutual teamwork with a beloved mate and friend, not just the culminating drama of intercourse.”
Barry McCarthy

Last updated 2/26/18

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