Love and Sex After 50

Love and Sex After 50 is a course offered through the Lifelong Learning Institute at Virginia Tech in Blacksburg, Virginia, during the Spring Term, 2018.

LLI catalog description:

Love and Sex After 50
Monday, 3:00 – 4:30 p.m., Hillel at Virginia Tech. 3 weeks: Feb. 5, 12, 19. Class limit: 35. $35

AttunementThe course is open to members of the Lifelong Learning Institute (LLI).  Class members are welcome to attend any or all sessions.

To enroll in the course, first register here to join LLI. Yearly membership is $60; single term memberships are $35.

Then, when registration for LLI courses opens on Monday, January 8, 2018, follow the links  from this page to register for courses.

Course description:

Love and sex matter after 50! Science concurs with what our hearts, minds, and bodies know. Yet, how to navigate this unanticipated terrain of long-term relationships, lost and ended relationships, the uncertainty of future relationships, all with the spoken and unspoken prospect of getting naked together?! And the setting for this unfolding drama? A small, rural, college town?! If you feel overwhelmed, you’re not alone! This course will offer a dialectic of data-backed, reassuring, juicy guidance on possibilities for how to individually, and in partnership, feel loving and sexual your whole life.

  • Session 1: Update on the Context for Love and Sex After 50
  • Session 2: Heart-Touching, Mind-Engaging, Body-Tingling Possibilities for Sex After 50
  • Session 3: Ways to Talk About Love and Sex

Artist and LLI instructor Jessica Pace-Berkeley is scheduled to unveil a watercolor painting commissioned exclusively for the course during the second session on Monday, February 12, 2018, at 3:00 PM.

Class members will receive a packet of course materials.

Included in the packet:

“[E]ven though physical release may be involved, loving sex is a cherishing of each other’s minds, hearts and bodies – the whole person that is our partner.”
– John and Julie Gottman

“But I believe that everyone in the world wants to be with someone else tonight, together in the dark, with the sweet warmth of a hip or a foot or a bare expanse of shoulder within reach…Nothing is easy at this age, and first meetings for old lovers can be a high-risk venture. Reticence and awkwardness slip into the room. Also happiness.”
Roger Angell

Recommended Reading

Recommended by Harvey Barker, Ph.D., LPC, counselor in private practice in Blacksburg, Virginia, former Executive Director of New River Valley Community Services, who specializes in therapy for sexual and relationship issues:

Additional Recommendations

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Art by Caleb Flood

Last updated 11/17/17

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